Two Year Review

My husband and I had our 2 year anniversary a couple weeks ago! It is truly hard to believe that so much time has passed. It seems like just yesterday I was driving cross-country to Oklahoma to live with my boyfriend. I was 22 years old then.

Now I am 26 (and a half). I feel like a completely different person from that scared little girl in the car. So much has happened since then. Most of it in our second year of marriage! For the first time in my life, I feel like an adult. I am an Aunt. I have held 3 newborn babies. I have changed a diaper. We have bought a car. I have had serious thoughts about living in a house. I have had serious thoughts of being pregnant and starting a family. While these events aren't specific to all women in their mid-20s, they are specific and significant to me. According to me, I am an adult now. At last.

What I mean by that is I did not enjoy my teens or early 20s. At a time when most kids are figuring themselves out, going to parties, shrugging off mistakes, I was lost. I never really knew how to be that age, as odd as that sounds. I was awkward, couldn't figure out how to make new friends, had a rare form of OCD, and had absolutely no fashion sense. ("Mom, why can't I have these super baggy black pants with studs and giant pockets that drag on the floor?" "Hey look, this shirt is reversible!" ) I wanted to fit in, more than anything in the whole world, had absolutely no idea how to do that, and stuck out like a sore thumb (or just blended into the background? I was never too sure which). I always felt like I was living in the wrong decade. That instead of turning 13, I should have just jumped to 26. Because that was my magic number. I knew what I would want at that age. I would want a husband. I would want to be a soccer mom. I would want to have other friends that were moms. I would want to join the PTA. Why couldn't I just be 26 now?

The answer? Because I had to go through everything I went through to get here. I get it now. I finally understand. If any one thing in high school went differently, I wouldn't be where I am. That cliche is completely accurate. Wishing things went differently is pointless. For one thing, I love the friends and memories that I have from that time. I met my husband through one of these friends and I am eternally greatful. It can be fun to look back. But it is way more important to look forward.

I did not have these thoughts at our one year anniversary. There was still more that I needed to learn at that time. There is more that I need to learn still. But I do know one thing: If I am still in the area for my RHS Class of 2005 reunion, I will walk into that place with my eyes looking forward and a big smile on my face.

Bring it on, Marriage: Year 3




Years 0, 1, 2

I analyzed my blog and found...

So I did a quick tally in my"Posts" section, wanting to see what kind of posts had created the most traffic. These were my top 5 posts, in order:

5.) Quarter Century Crisis --43 views
4.) On Writing --44 views
3.) One Year Review --45 views
2.) Sex, Happiness, Gymmnastics --55 views (Probs because I tricked you with "sex" in the title)
1.) Twenty Six --56 views


Now on one hand, I'm a little sad that my book reviews haven't generated much traffic. But I get it. Someone who doesn't like to read isn't going to care what my summer reading list is or that I couldn't finish Anna Karenina. If this were someone elses blog, I would be waiting for the personal entries. Or better yet, a personal entry with pictures. I love reading about the lives of people I know. I guess I assumed no one else would feel that way, but to my surprise, that doesn't seem to be the case! So thank you so much for having an interest in my life, it truly means a lot to me.

So maybe I'll change my format a bit, slide some book info into a post where I talk about how I got my eyebrows pierced, or something to that effect. (If my mom is reading this, she is thinking "Oh, no, not again").

I find writing in a public forum to be therapeutic in a way, so even if you stop listening, I will still be here sharing. And I hope you don't stop listening! I have a lot to say :)

An Epic Tale

Before I chat about the series I finished a few months ago, I want to set up the scene a little bit. These books have an unfair reputation of being "uncool." They were written in the 50s by an English author, whose voice I find very similar to other classics that came out of English writers, such as Jane Austen. It is completely my loss that I don't enjoy reading books that were written that way. Do you know what I mean? I know that is stupidly vague. Here is an example:

“Begone, foul dwimmerlaik, lord of carrion! Leave the dead in peace!"

A cold voice answered: 'Come not between the Nazgûl and his prey! Or he will not slay thee in thy turn. He will bear thee away to the houses of lamentation, beyond all darkness, where thy flesh shall be devoured, and thy shrivelled mind be left naked to the Lidless Eye."

A sword rang as it was drawn. "Do what you will; but I will hinder it, if I may."

"Hinder me? Thou fool. No living man may hinder me!"

I am ashamed to say that I am a bit dense when it comes to these types of novels. I was never able to get even halfway through Pride & Prejudice, even though I love the plot of the story (thanks to the movie). Same with Anna Karenina. Or anything written by Shakespeare.  I feel like it's sacrilegious for me to call myself a reader and lover of books and not love the classics...but there it is. 

Those who have read them will know right away what series I am referring to after reading the quote...I'm talking about the Lord of the Rings series.

I watched the movies first. If you are going to read the books, I highly recommend that you watch the movies first. It really helps put the many strange names and places into perspective. And the movies were AMAZING. Seriously. Watch them. You will have such respect for Peter Jackson in addition to J. R. R. Tolkien and the worlds they created together. The way he uses technology and special effects is nothing if not inspiring. 

In summary, I think you should read Lord of the Rings if you like any of these things:

1.) An epic story (One story split into 3 books...4 if you include The Hobbit)

2.) The Harry Potter Series (Another epic fantasy series)

3.) Fantasy  (I actually don't generally like the Fantasy genre, so going off those other 2 points alone is enough!)

So watch the movies. Read the books. Listen to the books on audio DVDs. You won't be disappointed.

Harry

Stone. Chamber. Prisoner. Goblet. Order. Prince. Hallows

 

We all know them. We all love them We have all (secretly or not) wanted to be sorted into houses. We are Generation HP.

 

These movies are always circulating through various TV channels. I have watched more than a few Harry Potter Weekends on ABC Family. When I learned that I would get the chance to visit The Wizarding World of Harry Potter in Orlando, I started thinking about the books. In general, I feel that rereading books is a waste of time (I know many people disagree) so I hadn't opened a book in the Harry Potter series since the 7th book came out several summers ago. I reasoned that even though I know the basic plots and endings, a lot of story and detail are left out of the movies. And since I rescued the series from my husband's childhood room, I had them all at my fingertips. Ready, Set, GO!

 

The most common thought I had while reading was that J. K. Rowling's imagination is SPECTACULAR. The universe, the detail, and the character development are all so in-depth that it is easy to imagine a world where this really does exist and I think that's why kids are drawn to the series. I mean seriously, who truly hasn't wondered what house they would be sorted into? (I think Hufflepuff for me.) I'm not going to recap the books since even people who haven't read them know what they are about, but I thought I would list some of the best quotes from each one.

 

Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone

 

It does not do to dwell on dreams and forget to live.

 

It takes much bravery to stand up to our enemies but we need as much bravery to stand up to our friends.

 

Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets

 

It is our choices, Harry, that show us who we truly are, far more than our abilities.

 

Never trust anything that can think for itself if you can't see where it keeps its brain.

 

Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban

 

You can exist without your soul, you know, as long as your brain and heart are still working. But you'll have no sense of self anymore, no memory, no...anything. There's no chance at all of recovery. You'll just exist. As an empty shell. And your soul is gone forever...lost.

 

You think the dead we loved ever tryly leave us? You think that we don't recall them more clearly than ever in times of great trouble?

 

Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire

 

We are only as strong as we are united, as weak as we are divided.

 

It was like trying to keep water in his cupped hands; the details were trickling away as fast as he tried to hold onto them.

 

Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

 

Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike.

 

We've all got both light and dark inside us. What matters is the part we choose to at on. That's who we really are.

 

Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince

 

Have you any idea how much tyrants fear the people they oppress? All of them realize that, one day, amongst their many victims, there is sure to be one who rises against them and strikes back!

 

It is the unknown we fear when we look upon death and darkness, nothing more.

 

Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows

 

Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on Earth should that mean that it is not real?

 

It is a curious thing, Harry, but perhaps those who are best suited to power are those who have never sought it.

 

 

 



Always impressive

Chicago

I went to a book club meeting yesterday to discuss our latest book, The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson. When I picked it up from the library, I was looking forward to reading it as I had never even heard of it and probably wouldn't have picked it off the shelf even if I had, because I rarely read non-fiction. Not because I don't like to read about true events, I just never know which events are worth reading about.

In the interest of seeing if any of you would be interested in this book, I'm going to throw out some key words:

Chicago. World's Fair. Architecture. Serial Killer.

This book is about the Chicago World's Fair in 1893, how it came to be, how it was built, what came out of it. And an additional story about a serial killer who lived and worked within walking distance from the fair and how he took advantage of all the tourism by killing many of the tourists.

It was definitely an interesting read...but knowing what I know, I still wouldn't have picked it off the shelf. For one thing, it was very architecture-heavy. I skimmed over a lot of the too-detailed descriptions and jargon involved in designing and re-designing,  the executing and re-executing, the building and re-building of the many structures involved in the Fair. But if that kind of stuff interests you, then you will LOVE this book.

Also, I wish the stories intertwined more. Obviously history can't be re-written, but it would have been way more interesting if the killer's story somehow intertwined with the magic of the Fair. But the two plots are seperate which meant I was less invested in going back and forth between the two stories.

It would have been amazing to see the Fair, though. Huge and beautiful. So many inventions came out of that fair, totally changing the course of history. I'm not going to mention them here because it's more interesting to read them in the context of that time period.

Or go see the movie due out in the next few years, rumored to be starring Leonardo DiCaprio!

Twenty Six

When I was a teenager, I had a theory about turning 26. In my mind, 26 was the ultimate age to be because it's the youngest age to be old and the oldest age to be young. I was really hoping to find an old diary entry that stated my 26 Theory, but I guess I never wrote it down. So today, I've been thinking about 16 year old Sam and wondering if she would be happy with the person she turned out to be at 26. I am pretty confident that she would be thrilled, as I am the happiest I have ever been and I am so excited to see what changes occur in the coming year. While I never saw myself as a military wife, I know that I was meant for this role and while the crazy last minute changes and switches are frustrating, my life has never been more exciting. So thank you to everyone involved in my life at this point, you all had a hand in helping me reach a happy 26!

And now, here are some people who share my birthday:

Poncho Villa
Richard Scarry
Kenny G
Mark Wahlberg
Chuck Klosterman